Well, my thread locked up (links in my sig) right when I messed up on my DBing--hey, thanks Mods! ;\) Now we can brush all that under the rug (just kidding)...

Recap of my sitch: H and I are both in our early 30's, have been together 5.5 years, married 3, no kids, 2 cats. We have been separated about 3.5 months now, largely due to pretty serious issues that I talk about here and here.

H has basically lost faith in himself and our R, also marriage itself, and is depressed and acting out. Since we separated, he has had a long-distance aborted EA, and a short-distance (?) aborted PA that involved kissing an old girlfriend (who knew him prior to his issues) and no sex.

H was out of state visiting his family for about half the time that we've been separated.

We have currently agreed to move towards some kind of legal separation or even D, and have been in several discussions about it for the past week or so. We are also trying to be friends, and we are supposed to "hang out" on Wednesday.

I've been inconsistent with my ability to DB like a champ, but I am getting better, and starting to really recognize where I've gone wrong. It's definitely a work in progress...

I've been pretty good with GAL stuff, taken up running, creative projects, charitable activities, spending a lot of time with friends and trying to challenge myself with things (like taking an improv class).

Detachment I'm still struggling with, but I am at the point where I believe I will be OK if it ends up we can't reconcile our R. I just don't want that to happen is all.

I think that's the gist of it...

It is in the shelter of each other that people live.--Irish proverb

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