why do i feel like i haven't learned a damn thing since this split? LIke why do i still react to my hurt and anger when i know i shoulnd't be? WTF is wrong with me?
i suck at this.......
You want her to help fill your love buckets & take away your hurt & anger. She can't. She wants you to fill hers & take away her hurt & anger, you're learning. Be patient. You can either feel like an *ss, or you can pat yourself on the back for being here, learning, listening, & trying. Which is it ?
The more you take care of you & fill your own bucket, the less you'll expect her to. Find & read my lightbulb moment. & get a very thick, heavy raincoat & a large umbrella.
Now go watch a very cute Disney movie with the D's, or have them teach you how to do "tea parties", or let them paint your toenails. lol Hugs.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
