"and my W hasn't really put me on this roller coaster of emotions...like hse's almost closed herself off emotionally from me. So this roller coaster that i was on earlier this week......my own doing."
I call this Role Reversal. Think about this a sec.. you remember all those times you were off doing something and she was hounding you to do "something". Is this not the same thing now.. only you two have switched places?
She has been on the roller coaster.. she got off and went to get some ice cream.. you just took her place on the ride. Now you are doing all the "Crazy Emotional" things.
"Is this normal? For the WAW to close themselves off emotionally?"
In all honesty.. she shut down long before she WA.
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.