"I have to remind myself that I don't have to be intimidated by this process. Anything that makes me insecure I can deal with. If I'm concerned about how the money has been spent, I can go through and give an accounting of it. Deal with facts, not emotions or intimidation. Spouse knows what rattles me. I will not succumb to feeling defenseless."
So.. What does this tell you?... you know me and answering my own questions... You need to prepare. Pick out the 2-3 most common things he might do to try and stir you up.. Think about them and get good and mad.. stir it up yourself.. walk thru what you both would say.. get those feelings to the surface.. then go do some "Constructive Deconstruction" get it all out before you have to play the game for real. Prepare your self for what could happen. If it doesn't.. you are that much better off.
"I've gone from being completely stuck to standing looking at a signpost with lots of direction arrows:"
I would rather not know where to go... than be stuck in the same place. Just having a choice is better than being stuck. Time.. will help you make the right choice on where to go.
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
