Do not respond to your wife when you're pissed off about the way she has done something.
And in general, when you're having a slightly down weekend because of missing her and being exasperated by why she won't just come home, the chances are BIG that you are going to respond to her out of your frustration.
Your response to her was WAY out of line.
You would NEVER have talked to her like that when you were happily married. At least I hope not.
The little boy inside of us has a hard time not doing the "nany nany boo boo" routine when we see our spouse finally having a tough time and needing our help.
These are your kids. And she is the wife that you love. Regardless of her decision, the heat of the moment is NOT the time to correct the way she asked for help. You can take care of that another time. All you did is shut her down and reinforce the notion that you're an ass that she needs to get away from.
Not a major blow, but as you know, all the little shots add up. You're trying to FILL the love bank, NOT make withdrawals.
By now you should be getting the hang of reading YOURSELF and knowing what your state is. Keep that in mind when choosing whether or not to respond to her, and what to say.
blessings,
bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
