Lissie, honey, I really know how this feels. I am so sorry that it's finally happened, but I have to say that I'm surprised he waited so long.
I think the hardest thing for me in all this is to have no control over what happens w/ my kids when they are with their father. Legally, I have no recourse here, and though I have tried to speak reason to XH, it hasn't worked. He does whatever suits HIM.
One thing I will tell you, though, is that my D11 is seeing him more clearly now for who he really is. I don't have to say or do anything - she knows. I know how hard it is to take the high road, believe me, I do!! But as Ian says, they will notice at some point. Gosh, I sure do hope that we are their role models.
Lots of love, Nicola
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