But, I think in your case it is the stress combined with the grief you are still suffering from. You are scared of losing the next person you love. Therefore, it makes perfect sense that you would worry about him.
Originally Posted By: Sandi2
Christa, your fears must stem from all of this! It just has to. I feel so strongly about you getting help with all of this loss from a real psychiatrist and not mess around with anyone else. Hope you took that the way I meant it.
Originally Posted By: Sandi2
But, you have a future that will "give" back to you in other ways and give you other people. We all have to deal with the past and how it affects us, but we all need to look to the future and not dwell on the past. I think that is what you want to do......you've just got to work through all this stuff and it takes time (darn it).
Originally Posted By: Christarn
ok...talked with the H today...the only answers he will give are I don't know. He told me still has feelings but will never trust me again...which I validated, told him it would be hard after I left to regain trust. I asked him if there was something that I could do to help him regain my trust...he answered I don’t know.
And in all likelyhood.. he does not know. In true DAM fashion.. he will wait till it hits him in the face. It kinda to old.. I lost my wallet. Someone always asks where? What the person that asked "where" should be doing is retracing the "looser's" steps to see if they can find the "wallet".
8/29/07 From Gone Dancing: The fact that he is explicitly telling you he's scared, doesn't want you to leave him again, etc, means that he wants you to know he is invested in the M still, yet wants to make sure you know what you need to do to reassure him things will be okay and that you'll be there for the long haul.
The only thing I will add.. is now both of you are scared.
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
