The kids slept over her house again. At least this time my son was not on a floor but a sofa.
My D slept in the same room as the GF's D.
X slept in the room with the GF.
That has been the firt time.
My son called me this morning and he told me he didn't want to sleep there, but the X said Listen it is to late and I am not driving back, so we are sleeping here and tomorrow we are having a garage sale.
My son said to me this morning. I asked papi where are you going to sleep?
The x responded , Upstairs!
Then my son said to me, you know how he answers the questions mom, that he doesn't tell the complete truth.
I said to my son, Hey go out there and help sell some stuff, Ok.
Wow them with your amazing math talents when it comes to money.
My son said Ok mama, The quicker it is over the quicker we can go home right?
I said have fun buddy.
I spoke to my D for less than a minute she was having to much fun with the Gf's kids. So it hurt, but I said Ok love you bye princess.
I should be thankful that she is having fun, and they are not treating her badly.
I have allowed this to really hurt me all morning. This is not the way we agreed to raise our kids.
I don't mean to sound holier than thou. Everyone has their own way.
I have spoken to the GF myself and she knows my kids don't want to sleep there, and she understood.
Where was her understanding last night?
She can disrespect her own daughter with allowing her BF to sleep in her bed.
But don't disrespect my children.
But if their own dad disrespects his children then, why would she say any different.
The X is a pig in shitte with this lady, b/c she says nothing to him ever. She puts my X before her own children.
I didn't. I pay for it now.
I will say nothing. Yup. B/c He will get back at me. When he gets back at me he does it with the kids.
No, he does not hurt them physically. He will bring them home on weekday at 10pm, when they are supposed to be here at 7pm. He won't care that they have to wake up early the next day. Things like that. He will come in here and put Tv's in their rooms or buy them more video games and all that. Things he knows I don't like. Just to spite me, and so I can know he can do what he wants.
Things like that. It is so many things, that i Just give up saying anything.
I already called my L the last time when my son was put on the floor. Seems like that didn't do anything.
He has a chip on his shoulder my X. He makes sure he shows me. He makes sure he knows he can do what he wants.
I would of ranted and raved before, but my kids would end up suffering.
So now, I shut it and bite my tongue.
I don't know which way to go about it anymore.
I can not control any of it .
It hurts b/c we said we would raise our kids so differently.
The thought of my kids not having their own space somewhere, and their things.
I just hate it.
And you know what, maybe they don't even really hate it, I just may be so anal about certain stuff.
But the sleeping in the same room together, I knew it was coming. I don't put any faith in him doing the right thing anymore.
I hate that I have no faith in this man that I have known since I was 11 years old.
I hate that he has no respect for my parenting.
I should of known this was going to happen b/c he could not look at me in the face when he pulled up in the drive way.
And ofcourse he bought the kids a wireless something or other for the WII.
I should know his pattern already.
Ok rant over.
Onward for today.
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