Just caught this title and decided to post. I used to post here daily from 01 to 05. Now I post under Suviving.
Peace: I am so sorry that your received papers. There wasn't that much drama surrounding it when I finally got divorced. It still hurts so much and I just want to reassure you that life will go on. And you will be ok.
My bomb was Aug 01 when H was arrested for DUI and told the cops his M was over and he was going to kill me. OK - there's my drama! I was totally in shock. Did not know about OW (maggot and yes, I'm fine with name calling - I call a spade a spade). But cops told me not even to pick him up as I was in danger. Of course he sobered up but I kicked him out. Then I found out about maggot who was cheating on her H and they moved in together. Then I found DB and wanted to save my family.
I became the poster child for DB so to speak for app 2 years. I bought into all of it. And I really, truly believed that he would come to his senses and come back to me. If I did everything right. I don't think anyone should be making these kind of assumptions or throw statistics around because in my experience very very few saved their M.
Anyway, got a call and I have to run. But suffice to say that after 30 years together (25 married) and 3 kids - I have NO relationship with ex at all. We never speak. He gives as little as possible and does it in a nasty way always. I divorced him 3 years ago - he didn't want a divorce, but he married maggot right after. I don't have any idea how they're doing and do not care. I think they deserve each other.
I have a new man in my life and we've been together a few years. I doubt we will get married. We do not live together. But I love him and he enhances my life.
Oh - my life. Is great! I can do what I want when I want. I love my job, have a great R with my kids, lots of friends and travel a lot. I wouldn't change a thing.
Not trying to take away anyone's hope but I don't think anyone should have you believe it will work out and to keep hanging on. Life is for the living.
I mean no disrespect to anyone here. I wish you all the best life possible.
