The Wifey - trying hard not to cry.

[The Wifey]

What I need to know now, is is it possible for me to detach and give him the space and time he is asking for and both of us live in the same house? I just don't know if it is.

I actually went and looked at an apartment this morning and it was depressing. In the city (I'm a country girl), dingy, run-down, ancient and tiny gas stove. Definitely a no.

Then I went to my parents to visit and got a lecture. I know they care, but I was told that if he wants to separate he needs to leave. It made me cry, yet again.

I just need to stop talking about leaving or even him leaving. I am going to detach. One word answers, keeping busy.

You are all right about an unhealthy attachment. I feel shattered. I have my IC tomorrow night. Not sure about the list, Ken. Some definitely apply and some do not.

I have to share what my h said. He feels like a big failure. He is in pain and needs to heal himself before he can think about working on the m. He loves me and always will. He feels terribly guilty that I've lost more than 20 pounds and am a mere shadow of the person I normally am. I wonder if it would have been easier to tell you I didn't love you any more, which wouldn't be true.

You said I could come to the house and you would give me space, but that hasn't happened. He understands about me feeling shattered because that is how feels, also.

Why can't I just get it together before I lose everything?