Distressed - thanks. I had the realization that it was true giving to give someome what they needed even though it was against what I wanted. The funny thing is that I got what I needed also in the process.
Amazing how that works. Gives new meaning to its better to give than receive. You end up getting more that way somehow.
Originally Posted By: ken
One of the fears I had when I was married was that if we spent too much time together alone we wouldn't have much to do or talk about and she would find me to be a boring person. I often felt like a fraud. Brought this up in IC the other day. You are dead on about growing as individuals and also as a couple. The hard part is actually doing it and not stopping.
You need to balance the time together and the time apart. My W and I talk alot more after we have done things apart than if we had spent all that time together. But we also have good things to talk about when we do things fun together. Also I have found that I really enjoy going to musicals, something she has always wanted to do but was afraid to spend the money on because she thought that I would think it was a waste. Now I have bought the tickets for the last couple and we have had a blast. So do something that your W enjoys, you may think you would not like it but who knows until you try. Also if you don't like it you just spent quality time with her. Its a win/ win in my book.
Originally Posted By: ken
The taking for granted thing is at the forefront of my mind. It's what I did and part of the reason we drifted apart. I sometimes think I should get a reminder tattooed onto my hand to remind not to take the relationship for granted.
Thanks you guys for the feedback.
Ken
Don't get the tattoo just come here someone here is always more that willing to smack you upside the head with a 2x4.
Seriously, that is my fear also. Just something you and your w will have to discuss after you have pieced your M back together.
Keep the faith your headed in the right direction.
