losing sunshine but gaining happiness either way

[LosingSunshine]

Thx jandn! I was reading your thread late last night and have some thoughts so i'll be stopping over in a little.

As for 5 LL, yeah I've read it and have a good clue which are my Ws. The thing with the fun is that before the kids we would have fun with or without alcohol...but intimacy was mostly none to nil unless she had been drinking or felt pressured to put out. My guess is that this goes back to college and beyond.heck, we didn't evec ML on our wedding night!

Why I am trying to gain insight is because I will be seriously letting go as she starts to move out and the settlement agreement is hashed out. The more I think and pray about keeping the door open, I always come up with another issue. Even if the emotional basket is full, can she be sober and intimate? Yes, it's her issue to fix but it will play into any piecing that would have to be done.

Sort of rambling here but I noticed this awhile back and even said something to her. Must not have heard like I didn't hear her.

Chris