Just a word of warning about the bed Alison. I left a new bed in my garage for about one month and a family of mice moved in! I do live in the country and my garage door is often open plus I was between cats at the time. I hope son feels the urge of a comfy bed a big draw to paint the room soon.
Sorry about the finances, can the maintenance be overturned on a D? I got it until I am 60yrs and my pension kicked in. I had to drop my original claim but it wasn,t too far off. That said after he rem. and moved abroad he reduced it drastically himself! Without my kids chipping in I would have had to sell my home. He has (apparently left a codil to his will that I will be reembursed on his demise) Like the w-i-f-e- is going to allow that!
I think you may be right about the MLC I am convinced that label is attached far to often, helps us at the time to excuse behaviour and gives us hope. Reality more often than not is they have left us long before they physically do and just want out.Many remarry the OW and appear to live happy ever after despite those who continue to say otherwise. I guess thats a help to believe they are guilt ridden and truly never happy, but does it help us to be delusional? Bottom line is we will never know and if it's the one who is supposedly in MLC saying this should we actually believe them?. We are constantly told believe nothing of what they say-actions not words. I hope your H at least starts to communicate. Its hard dealing with someone who does this. Let your lawyer deal with it all but make sure shes good. Hope you get to enjoy the sunshine abit.
