Ken's situation - Live-in WAW

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Sandi2 - Thanks for the feedback. I know what you mean about the doormat thing. The hoops she brought up were legitimate things I needed to work on. The frustrating part is that it seems to mostly be one way right now - and I realize that's part of the territory. She has hoops she has to jump through also to make this M work, but I'm not in a position to bring those up. I think they will come up in MC eventually.

Distressed - thanks. I had the realization that it was true giving to give someome what they needed even though it was against what I wanted. The funny thing is that I got what I needed also in the process.

One of the fears I had when I was married was that if we spent too much time together alone we wouldn't have much to do or talk about and she would find me to be a boring person. I often felt like a fraud. Brought this up in IC the other day. You are dead on about growing as individuals and also as a couple. The hard part is actually doing it and not stopping.

The taking for granted thing is at the forefront of my mind. It's what I did and part of the reason we drifted apart. I sometimes think I should get a reminder tattooed onto my hand to remind not to take the relationship for granted.

Thanks you guys for the feedback.

Ken