talked to W's parents today. here's what I said. let me know what you think.
"I wanted to run something by the two of you but haven't been able to catch up with you until now. I love your daughter very much, will always be faithful to her, and our marriage is very serious to me even though she is still affairing and possibly moving out of our house and in with friends. I understand that you feel she needs to make her own mistakes in life but I feel that what she is doing to our marriage and family should not be one of the mistakes we should just let her make. I appreciate you telling her that OM isn't allowed in your home but she doesn't care. I was hoping one or both of you could talk to her or put pressure on her to try and work through this difficult time. She's not just trying to destroy a marriage, but also tearing up a family. She just ran away from her problems instead of working on them. Forgive me if I'm out of line. You are her parents and you know best for her but she is acting on impulse and not thinking things through. I don't believe she knows what she really wants but is running to OM anyway. I could see if I was a boyfriend and we had no children but this is different. You two know the value of marriage and I think she either doesn't understand or doesn't care. She just wants to have a good time. I'll understand if you still don't want to help us but I think she needs you. I'm sorry to be asking you this but it's a major life lesson that your daughter, our son and I shouldn't have to suffer through just because she doesn't think clearly anymore. I love you both, please don't be mad, and thanks for listening."
2. Your relationship with your wife is over when YOU say it is over ----MarkF
