You both are getting along better now apart than together. Maybe you both needed the space to regroup and see what you will both be missing. Look at it like starting to date her all over again and remember how much fun that was the first time and now you cando it all over again.
We are getting along better now. You're right - it is exactly what we both needed. The MC and my wife both said last week when we talked about doing it. I was against it, but I realize now that I did it because I love my wife.
I knew it was what she needed and I put my own wants and what I thought I needed aside so that she could get what she needed. This is true giving and I didn't realize it until today in IC.
Welcome to manhood Ken, when you can put aside your fears of being alone and loosing the person you love that my friend is true love. As the old saying goes if you love something let it go if it comes back it is yours if it does not it never was. I very proud of you for this statement and you should be too.
Originally Posted By: ken
[ I even talked to my C about how I learned some things last night about my wife that I never new. I told C that it was like we were on a date early in a relationship and we were exploring each other and each other's past. It was nice.
Even when she dropped me off I looked at it as if we dating and parting ways after a date - this made it much easier for me to detach without the need to prolong the goodbye. It worked great. Of course, I read all of this on the boards somewhere in my travels. So much great information here.
MfT - You deserve the complliments. I see how tirelessly you help so many people here. You give great advice and have been learning from your posts for weeks before I even started posting myself. Your humility makes you that much more of a good person in my eyes.
Ken
This is what M is all about, if you can continue to learn new things about your W and grow not only as individuals but as a couple your M will be better than either of you could ever imagine. Keep it up you are on the right track. Just remember this journey never ends even if you get back together you must always work at it and never take her for granted again.
