I didn't study at all today. I know I will regret it but I'm just in too much of a funk over my finances today. I invited some friends over and thankfully one of them was able to come.
Whilst she was here my S15 turned up. It is the first time in getting on for a fortnight since I have seen him. The last time I spoke to him was last weekend when I phoned him to ask him why he hadn't turned up to help his grandad like he promised. I decided to try tough love on him at the point.
So when he came today I was with my friend and he had a friend with him as well. It was clear that he had been with friend a while and he only lives a few doors down from us. They called in for a plaster for his friend's foot. Not sure why he couldn't get one from his own house but anyway...... I was sat in the garden when he first arrived and it was only b/c I went in to make a drink that I knew he was here so I decided to play it cool. He ended up staying a while talking to D13 and her friends. I just left them to it.
When he finally decided to leave he said goodbye and I just returned the words. Normally I make a big thing of him giving me a kiss etc but today I just said goodbye. He spontaneously came up to me and gave me the biggest hug! Even my friend remarked on it after he had gone. So I think tough love is the order of the day for a while longer yet.
The bed I ordered for S15 arrives in the morning. S15 was supposed to be helping me decorate his room ready to put the bed in but he let me down on that too and with studying it hasn't got done. So the bed will have to go in the garage for while. As I said tough love. My S15 needs to see that his decision to stay with his dad (mainly b/c H just lets him come and go as he pleases) has hurt the rest of us a lot both emotionally and economically. I'm not trying to punish him but I'm not going to be all over him like a rash like I have been previously when he comes home. I promised him an ipod nano for his birthday in a couple of weeks but I cannot afford one now with Hs stunt of stopping the maintenance. I don't like to let him down but I have no choice. I have to spend my money wisely and very conservatively until I can find a solution to rectify the mess I find myself in.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
