JCJ gave you great advice. And MANY spouses come back after filing, and a lot even between the judge saying ok and the folks signing the papers.....and EVEN with another spouse.
What you must do....is ACT NOW.
It doesn't matter if it isn't fair. It doesn't matter if you've already DBd before.
DO NOT engage in divorce talk, who gets this and who gets that, be vague and avoid.
You can do this, but you must do this well.
If you're willing, click notify.....I will check on you.
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001