BTW, I have taken my ring off, and he has said nothing. I doubt if he's even noticed.
Being Me, why have you taken off your ring? That strikes me as a bit passive aggressive. It's like hitting back at him without coming out and saying what you want to say. Just my thoughts. You also mentioned that there were good times with your H and then zoomed off to rant about porn in the garage (and no, I'm not for porn in the garage or anywhere else!). I'm wondering what those good times were, what was different about those times, how did you make them happen, and yes I am social working you here! Now, how about trying the Miracle Question, ya know, you go to bed one night wake up and your problems with H have all been solved. It's a miracle. What would be different? What would be happening that would tell you the miracle has happened? Are there any small parts of that miracle happening now already? I'd also like to remark on the time a few years ago when you asked if lovemaking could be more "gentle" etc. I can tell you that as a male he would probably experience such remarks as criticism. What he did by shutting down is what guys do when they feel they are being told what they are doing isn't good enough! Please don't think I'm being critical of you here, I'm just trying to be the devils advocate and throw some alternative views at ya! You've been through alot with this man and if you decide enough is enough, well that's good enough for me. But until you sit down and tell him it's over, I'm still gonna try Oh, and checking in with a DB coach might be a good idea as they can work with you on the kind of ideas I'm trying to ignite here. If you want to try the Miracle Question on yourself why not try this website which has a great article on how to do it, sikt.nu, click Articles In English and then click The Miracle Question and The Miracle Scale...hope it helps.
Now, how about trying the Miracle Question, ya know, you go to bed one night wake up and your problems with H have all been solved. It's a miracle. What would be different? What would be happening that would tell you the miracle has happened? Are there any small parts of that miracle happening now already? I'd also like to remark on the time a few years ago when you asked if lovemaking could be more "gentle" etc. I can tell you that as a male he would probably experience such remarks as criticism. What he did by shutting down is what guys do when they feel they are being told what they are doing isn't good enough! 
