WAW and OM

[rpierson10]

I sincerely appreciate everyone's responses to my questions. You can't imagine how much it means to me to read these! It really helps me make sense of what's going on. A few new developments I would like to get your thoughts on though:

First, my wife, her mom, and my son went on a trip to see her granparents last weekend. They were away Sunday, Monday, and got back Tuesday. I picked up my son Tuesday afternoon and spent a great evening with him. We had just gotten home with a fast food dinner when I get a text from my wife asking how our son was (to preface this, she is much better at texting sometimes than calling). We texted back and forth for a bit and then she asked if she could come over and help put him to bed. Of course I said "okay". She got over and spent probably over 2 hours here, with only 1/2 hour being with our son awake.

I know that her mom can drive her nuts and that's who she is staying with right now. So I don't know if her coming over to our house is just an escape for her or not. Another note, the house that I am living in with my son is the one that we originally brought him home to when he was first born. So it's not like it's a brand new house.

Before she left that night I told her she could come over whenever. I don't know if that's a good or bad idea. My son and I went camping on Wednesday and I get a text that afternoon from my wife saying that she is at the house doing laundry. She said she was feeling blue but didn't know why but needed some alone time. It eventually started raining so my son and I bailed on the camping trip and came home and saw my wife again for close to 2 hours.

I did let her know that my son and I both really enjoyed having her around those 2 nights. She said she enjoyed it too. I'm not for sure exactly what that means. Because Thursday she came over, had lunch, and then left to go stay with her best friend and see the OM.

Today when she came over to pick him up she was a bit standoffish. But that's par for the course when she gets back from seeing the OM.

With all this being said, I know that in the past I definitely didn't meet her emotional needs. That's why she felt like she had to reach out to someone else. I totally understand that. But my question is, with her thinking seriously of a D, how do I show her that I can meet her emotional needs?

I'm reading DB right now and getting into the thick of it so hopefully that will help! Thanks again everyone!