Ms. Imp and her Magic Kumquat

[Gypsy]

Hey Ms Imp..

How goes the painting of the mighty kumquat?

You gave your husband a lot to think about. People who avoid emotional conflict usually aren't that good at saying how they feel right off the cuff.

H: I don't feel relief. I'm hurt.

Lookie ms. imp.. he's actually 'feeling' an emotion.. hurt. My brother would chide me when I would say I felt 'hurt', that it was too broad a word, that I had to be more specific.

Things are moving so fast and I have a million and one things on my mind.

Goodness.. he doesn't know how to process the information.

Then he got up and gave me a long hug but didn't say anything else. Just silence.

And ending with a physical touch.

It's hard to watch someone in pain. Trying to fix his pain won't make him feel better, won't make you feel better either. This is his time to look in the mirror. You've been doing this for months. You're forcing him to grow with your words as his actions did the same for you.

It's time for the man to learn some skillz.

*hugs*

[StrgMarvelousWmn]

Kerry--

I do not stand a chance when it comes to ethnic-oriented jokes.

On my mother's side, I am Polish, Lithuanian, and Italian.
On my father's sdie, I am Irish, Scottish, French, and Canadian-Indian.

By osmosis, through my step-grandfather's family, I am also Syrian and Lebanese.

Ms Imp, I am seeing your H as in the middle of a reality check about his choices. Where do you stand if he has a change of heart?

SMW

[girlfromipanema]

...(with limited help from external sources-wouldn't hurt)

So nice to see you, K. You've inspired me so much to be strong and not accept weakness from the man I love(d). Thank you. I feel pretty strong but sometimes my words convey a more powerful message. Now, my question to you is, how "limited" are we talking? Joking, of course.

[girlfromipanema]

I never got married until I was 38, but I am Polish and not Italian.

In today's world, the reality is people are getting married much later in life. My sister just turned 37 and hasn't married yet. It was a red flag that he's a player. I'm not "interested" in him, but he's pleasant eye candy.

[girlfromipanema]

Gypsy Butterfly,

I always respect, admire and cherish the wisdom you impart. You are an outstanding mother. Your kids are so very lucky.

Painting was fun and I made some progress... not on the magic kumquat portion, but I will in the coming weeks.

Have fun tonight!

[girlfromipanema]

Ms Imp, I am seeing your H as in the middle of a reality check about his choices. Where do you stand if he has a change of heart?

SBIM has some Syrian in him as well. Maybe the Syrian cancels out his Italian cassanova ways? Winky wink.

I'm 1/2 Sicilian and a mixture of English, Irish, German and French on my father's side. Apparently one of my distant relatives was Governor Hall of Tennessee (hear that, Mike?). He came from England to Virginia, I believe, and eventually fled an attack by American Indians (witnessing the scalping of his brother). He grew up to become Governor.

If my husband had a change of heart? I would strongly consider trying to make things work. Unfortunately, so much damage, pain and distrust exist in our relationship and I'm unsure if I have the fortitude to make things work. It's all I've wanted for many, many months (well, since mid-2006 really), but I've come to terms with the end of my marriage for the most part. It's so hard to think about. Today I've had the empty, lonely, broken feeling bubbling just below the surface. Not quite "depressed" but close.

[girlfromipanema]

He once watched my brother and I having a horse manure fight in the pasture next to his house and proudly said "those are my Polish grand kids". I bet Ms Imp has a whole bunch of Sicilian jokes she knows.

First of all, EWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW. What the hell would posses you to get in a horse manure fight????

I actually don't have any Sicilian jokes.

[karen43]

[quote=girlfromipanemaFirst of all, EWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW. What the hell would posses you to get in a horse manure fight????

[/quote]It must get boring on farms or something--isn't cow-tipping another hobby on the farm? Does anyone actually do that I wonder (just seen it on TV or movies). If you don't have a big city around, I guess you make up your own entertainment??? Checking on ya, GFI, don't always post, but always hoping you're doing good! Karen

[StrgMarvelousWmn]

Karen--

I actually HAVE been cow tipping when I was very young and foolish. The cows get MAD, but it is funny as hell!!!

SMW

[girlfromipanema]

I can understand cow tipping, but I cannot understand a manure fight.

One thing I forgot to come clean about... I've continued to make sure my husband has dinner ready when he comes home. He's expressed sincere appreciation for my help. I'm not sure what I should do. I don't know how to not be his wife. I don't know if it's a gradual thing or a flip the switch thing.

He's at the archery range with OW and possibly OW's stbx bf now. I was thinking of sending him a text asking if he has dinner plans and letting him know we don't have anything in the house to eat. I dunno...