The Wifey - trying hard not to cry.

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Neilh I quit drinking when I was 24 through AA and was introduced to ACoA (Adult Children of Alcoholics)issues back then. I found the link to that particular pdf through a google search.

The book Adult Children of Alcoholics is a great resource to read to show why those of us who grew up in alcoholic households feel the way we do. You can get the book through amazon.com

Another resource:[url]http://www.adultchildren.org/[/url]. That's the main page for ACoA. I just ordered the textbook and workbook today. It's based on a 12 step program modeled after the 12 steps of AA. I thought it might be another good resource for me to improve myself.

I have a hunch that alot of LBS have grown up in this kind of environment.(maybe even the WAS) It actually came to me as I was looking at my own sitch and my unhealthy connection to my wife and the desperation I was feeling - I was seeing the same signs of desperation in so many LBS that it occurred maybe this is a common thread.

Ken