losing sunshine but gaining happiness either way

[LosingSunshine]

Thx Jandn, LFW and Mike!

I'll post more of a response later as I am about to go golfing and am focused on a lingering question regarding sexuality. I would appreciate any thoughts from anyone, especially from the fine ladies on these boards.

Over the years, especially after 4d was born, my W would look for any excuse not to be intimate with me. I've heard:

I am not in the mood
I am tired
I would be more attracted to you if you lost weight...I was only 15 to 20 lbs over ideal
I would if you didn't smoke
I would if you wouldn't drink
And the list goes on with excuses

Now, upon reflecting on the past, the best times, ie not the okay just get it over with type sex, she had been drinking.
Even when we were dating, there was always alcohol.
Obviously that is not healthy and I can't think how to word the question but does anyone have any thoughts, insight, experience with something like this?.