I just wanted to let you know that I am the other side of your coin. I don't know if I can be much help, but I do feel your pain. My H is the WAS and he is having an affair with OW but even to this day, and he is filing for D, he will not admit it to me.
I am so sorry for you. I am not the greatest example, but I know I have to leave him alone and give him his space. That's really all we can do right now. I hope I can be of some help for you to see the other side. Please let me know if you want my help.