Minkerman: 3 months back together today!

[minkerman]

Some of you will remember me, others have never read my posts.

I am here to tell you that this stuff (along with other related stuff) WORKS. I don't mean that to say you can "manipulate" your sitch to "trick" your spouse into coming back...what I mean is, you can change your behaviours, be consistent, and rediscover/improve yourself to the point where your partner may decide to give it another try.

Today is a reflective day for me.

Yes, it is exactly 3 months ago that my wife asked if she could come home. But it is also exactly one year ago that she cried for help in our marriage and I chose not to listen. That was the first domino in the whole series of events that transpired after July 26-2007, which culminated in the two of us separating after being together for thirty years.

But today...well, we are not perfect, but we are gradually renewing our marriage. We are taking each of those dominoes that fell, and standing them back up, one by one. We have 'some' great times, a 'ton' of good times, and 'very few' bad times.

I am very aware of my old behaviours, and I do actually have to consciously stop myself from falling back into them. Things like plopping my arse onto the couch and watching TV every day. Things like wasting a weekend doing nothing, instead of suggesting we go out and do something interesting (I've always been the 'planner').

But - so far, so good. I am so very happy we are back together, and she is too.

Keep trying, and when you screw up, start all over again. Don't give up. If your spouse has even a tiny flicker of love left, it can be nurtured back into a flame.