Day 1 of the Last Resort Method....Again!

[7 Year Itch]

So hard to say. I don't think it's anything anyone can tell you. How do YOU feel after it. What people were telling me is if it made me feel used for bad, or him feel bad then we should stop. When my H would freak out afterwards and get all weird, then i would make it clear to him that I was still up for it, but he'd have to initiate because I couldn't keep feeling like crap afterwards. Well, needless to say, he did. So then I started initiating again.

I've gone about 2 weeks now without a freakout from him, so we'll see.

For me, yes it felt bad that I know it meant more to me than him, but I really felt in my situation that I needed to keep that connection. I'd let him lead when he protested those few times, and somehow we'd come back together.

Maybe you could say the same thing to him....."I want that intimacy with you. I know it doesn't mean to you what it does to me right now, but maybe we could just let it be what it is. A nice moment". Make it clear to him you don't expect it to mean everything (even though it is hard to turn that off, but it might put him more at ease). Don't put expectations on it.

Chris