ms ladybug SQUISHED (3)

[jon2911]

OK. Then, can jon or anyone explain to me what Ephesians 5 means? It DOESN'T say wives submit to your husbands ONLY if they love you back. How can I explain what that verse is REALLY about. I guess I don't understand it myself.

Your husband is quoting 5:22. Just look one verse back: v. 21 "Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ."

Any husband who uses 22 as a weapon is clearly outside of what the passage is teaching. Frankly, it pisses me off. If he tries that again, say "that's not what that passage means. I really want to trust you, but can't right now". Stay humble, avoid an argument.

As for the moving thing, I understand that. When things aren't right, it's easy to think "well, we just need to move", which avoids working on things. I was convinced that moving to Austin would fix my M, and tried everything to make it happen right up to the time W filed for D. I have a friend who's trying to do that now. Need to call him today actually. Maybe it's a guy thing. Blame location, job, wife anything except me for my problems.

Let's step back for a minute. You H is obviously hurting. He wants to believe you can change, and he can too. But he goes back to his old habit of making demands. He's still not sure about going through the work of MC or Retro or anything. But he's starting to realize that he's the problem. Have patience, you're doing great!