You gave your husband a lot to think about. People who avoid emotional conflict usually aren't that good at saying how they feel right off the cuff.
H: I don't feel relief. I'm hurt.
Lookie ms. imp.. he's actually 'feeling' an emotion.. hurt. My brother would chide me when I would say I felt 'hurt', that it was too broad a word, that I had to be more specific.
Things are moving so fast and I have a million and one things on my mind.
Goodness.. he doesn't know how to process the information.
Then he got up and gave me a long hug but didn't say anything else. Just silence.
And ending with a physical touch.
It's hard to watch someone in pain. Trying to fix his pain won't make him feel better, won't make you feel better either. This is his time to look in the mirror. You've been doing this for months. You're forcing him to grow with your words as his actions did the same for you.
