Things have been hectic here and yes I needed some time away from the emotions of everyone's sitch on here to concentrate on mine. I am a sensative person and pick up emotions easily (maybe I'm part Betazoid! so needing time & space for focusing on me meant not being as involved here for a bit.
Nope, you're not Betazoid, Deanna Troi, lol, I'm betting you are a "Highly Sensitive Person". There's a book by Elaine Aron, & she has a website too. I just finished reading the book, & it was wonderful at explaining how I am so aware of other people's feelings, & emotions. Also, how others energy can be completely overwhelming. I'm not sure sensitive is the best word, I think it's more "awareness of subtle changes in people's energy & emotions".
When you're in a crowded restaurant, are you aware of the couple way across the room that is having an argument ? When someone walks into the room, can you just tell their mood ? Are you very empathic & perceptive? Do you just know when someone is upset, even if they deny it?
There's also a book by Aron called "The Highly Sensitive Person in Love". I'm sensitive, H is not. 3 of our kids are sensitive, 1 is not. My D14's best friend is not, & my D couldn't figure out how come her best friend would be so mean & insensitive at times. When I explained this concept to D, she instantly caught on to it, & realized her friend isn't "wired" the same way. This information has saved their friendship. Her friend just can't help it, she's not "in tune" like we are.
It also helps me to realize why I get over stimulated in large crowds, or too much house noise, & H is oblivious to the kids noise.
Hugs.
That's pretty interesting. I have to check out the books, as I think those descriptions fit me very well.
How about pegging someone as good or bad the minute you meet them? That is a nack of mine that over the years has a pretty high percentage of being spot on.
My wife has told people about it and said over the years many times, "well I guess you were right about him, or her". Don't even get me started on kids that D has had for friends over the years.
This makes me think about something funny that she would laugh at me for. I am not really sure whether I still do it or not.
When we first met, we would be in the car with the music blaring and I would come to a stop sign, I would turn the radio down. She would say..what are you doing, listening for traffic?
The house noise is the same thing. W and D will have 2 TV's and a radio going throughout the house and I will feel like my head is going to explode.
so needing time & space for focusing on me meant not being as involved here for a bit.
