Distressed - lol at do as I say not as I do...hehe
My dad used to say that to me growing up.
Yesterday was nice. I had a really good time and felt really good about myself.
W asked me last night if I could take a ride past the house her parents are buying and check out a low spot in the yard that seems to stay wet. The funny thing is my brother told me this morning - I don't care if the roof is falling off, just tell her the house is perfect for her parents that way you get them out of the house. Made me laugh good.
So I checked out the house and called her figuring I'd just cover the details then get off. Well she starts talking to me about all kinds of stuff. Mostly chit chat but I could sense she didn't want to get off the phone. We would have a silence then she would start up a new subject. This is big since most of the phone conversations over the past few weeks involved her getting off rather quickly and I could feel it. My son was even pestering her and she kept telling him to go play. She used to use that as a 'reason' to get off the phone. We ended up talking for about 30 minutes.
She also said, "I had a really nice time with you last night. Even though parts were uneventful (slow spots during the reception where I asked her if she wanted to thumb wrestle and she pulled out a deck of cards... we were laughing) it picked up when we started dancing and it was a fun night."
Good positive stuff.
I thought she might do a pull-away today, didn't expect it just thought it might happen, but it seems like it didn't.
Ken
Ken this is all good. No expectations and patience are the words now. Keep doing what you are doing.
I want to thank you for ht compliments you have paid me. I am no expert by any means but with the help of my STBX, my C and some self introspection I have discovered myself and have now changed a lot of things for the better...I also had help from the fine people here..Sofaraway, Sandi(I read her posts and consider her a great asset to these boards) Forrest Gump-especially when he dumbs it down for me- and many more people here who I have learned from..
Your W's contact has been really good. As far as moving targets, one thing I like..you're adjusting..She tells you her complaints, you make an adjustment, if you go to far then you make an adjustment..that's all part of this..try something, observe, if it does not work try something new..
Keep going Ken..you are doing absolutely amazing in my opinion.
