MfT - Thanks. I've been letting it go and figure I'd deal with it when it comes up. We are scheduled for our next MC on Monday 8/4 which will be the end of the two weeks. The funny thing is I've noticed the hoops I've had to jump through are moving targets.
When she first tried to throw me out, her biggest complaint was I didn't help her around the house and with the kids as much as she needed. I immediately changed that and started to do everything...lol. Pendulum swung too far over. This bothered her, (new hoop) so I backed off to a happy medium.
Then she complained I wasn't being patient enough. Changed that. Then it was I was obsessing over fixing marriage (new hoop) Put all the books into a box and into garage. Then it was something else (new hoop). Changed that. Then something else, etc... A constantly moving target.
I did realize these she was actually showing me the things I needed to change in order for her to be happier. These 'complaints' are actually my answer on the things I need to work on. When I started to REALLY pay attention to what she was saying to me, I saw there were diamonds in there that I needed to pluck out.
I'll work on the triggers. Identifying them and figuring out ways to deal with them.
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I am very proud of the way you are handling things. I see many positives from the interaction you had with your W.
This is a big compliment. Thanks. I've learned alot reading around the boards and your advice has helped me tremendously even before you ever posted on my thread. Distressed has been a great help. Sandi2 also.
Watching others go through the same stuff and seeing the feedback given to them where they went right/wrong has taught me so many lessons.
Wifey - I hope today is a great day for you too
Ken the targets will always keep moving. She is confused and does not know what she want. Being able to figure it out is great because they will throw alot of conflicting things at you.
Eveything seemed to go well yesterday, keep it up. Focus on the positives and ignore the negatives for now. She will fluxuate back and forth the key is not to back slide. (do as I say not as I do )
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