I have already screwed up this R by my words and actions. When I say something won't work it's usually because I have already tried it. Example of something that hasn't worked: talking to her best friends to either say something to her or put pressure on her. They run back and tell her and she gets mad and flips out
Buster,
A suggestion: when I exposed to my wife's parents and siblings, and whenever I RE-exposed something to them, I always made it a point to tell them how much I loved their daughter/sister, how I'd always been faithful to her, how much I DIDN'T want a divorce, and that I really wanted the marriage to make it. In other words, I used language that -- if things were to get back to her -- they were a POSITIVE, along with the obviously negative news of whatever it was I was exposing/re-exposing.
