H is having affair after all - part 3

[Jen_Jam]

I've received an email from H in reply to the email I sent this is an excerpt:

As for OW - yes we are good friends and no i wasn't lying to you when i said it was over - it was.

I dont know what the future holds for any of us - i am still trying to get through this whilst trying to remain sain - for me to say i am going to do this and that with some body else is a joke - do you not think life is crap enough at the moment without making it more complicated !

Like your life mine is private - i have no wish to throw it around in public unless some one else does it for me. We live too separate lives now - i have no wish to know what you do or where you go - i trust you implicitly with the boys and with the business and will continue to work for the both of us with the swimming lessons. You know i will always be there for the boys in every way possible as a father does.

I think this is a great email! Contrast that with when he was telling you he didn't trust you at all, when he thought you wanted to turn the boys against him and ruin the business. He has used the words "I trust you".

Is the affair on or off? Who cares? This is a briliant email, he has in fact extended a hand of friendship. OK, maybe not the hand, just a little finger, but it's better than before.

FWIW, I think the affair is off. Seems like he's got enough going round his head right now, and seing OW would just make his life harder. But it doesn't matter. The point you're worried about is you're being lied to/kept in the dark/laughed at behind your back. I can appreciate that. it's a HORRIBLE feeling. My suggestion - ignore it. You cannot control what h does or doesn't do, so let it go. Take what he says at face value, and concentrate on YOU. You're having a good time in life right now, don't let these thoughts ruin that!