Ken's situation - Live-in WAW

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I'm looking forward to her parents leaving the house. It's really put a strain on our relationship and I think her mother has undermined it by the way she naturally is.

On the ride out we did small talk about the house. Her mother giving her a hard time last night about putting my son to bed and her mom telling her she gives in too much to him. He didn't want to go to bed and kept coming downstairs. Her mother couldn't take it and was saying stuff like, "This is getting out of hand" etc... (GET OUT OF MY HOUSE MIL ... lol)

Then W asked me how I was feeling. Didn't expect that. Told her I was doing really well and felt great. No anxiety, no compulsive obsessive thinking (bipolar/anxiety/depression stuff which is an issue in my sitch). She said, good.

I asked how she was feeling and she replied, "I'm alright". She said "It's just hard taking care of the two kids all by myself. My mother helps out some but it's still very hard." I told her I understood that. Said, even though your mother is helping it's still alot to do to take care of them all day and then have to brush their teeth and read to each one and put them to bed...

She also told me that she did some research online about the place the wedding was at and they had an inn like a bed and breakfast. She said the rooms are like 125 a night, unlike the B & B we stayed at in Feb which was like $275 a night. She said, "They have other suites which are like $300 a night, you know, the rooms we won't be going to. I think the $125 a night rooms would be nice for us to go to."

Had more small talk about stuff. Had a few laughs along the way too.

When we got there she grabbed my hand as we were walking into the place. She also remarked how she had a nice time the day of my son's birthday.

Instead of going through a blow by blow of the entire night, maybe I'll just highlight some of the positives:

- She did alot of touching. Touching my arm, my leg when talking. Hand holding etc...
- We laughed alot
- She didn't drink at all. Had Odoulls with me. Big one - she's being supportive here
- Asked me to take a walk outside in the gardens. Was nice - we held hands
- She wore the perfume which she knows I love. I said, "I love that perfume" and she said, "I know" and smiled
- Even curled her hair which she knows I like when she does that
- Complimented me
- Told me at end of the night that she had a really good time. Later said it again.
- She initiated holding hands a few times
- Had a nice slow dance
- She initiated some small kisses
- She was listening intently during one of the readings that said marriage is about the good and the bad. The important thing is to be there for each other through all of it. Even saw her nod her head.
- No R or M talk at all
- Asked me to spend the day together on Monday with the kids. My son has a dentist appt. in morning then an ear doctor appt. in the afternoon. I volunteered to drive my son to ear doctor (an hour drive into Manhattan) to give her a break from having to do it. She took him last week. She said, "Why don't we plan on spending the whole day together. Come over in the morning then we'll do something, then you can take Jon to the doctor in the afternoon. Or we can all go in there together."
- A couple of ILY and some nice hugs
- Long kiss at end of the night followed by a long hug
- She even asked me to go by the house her parents are buying in the morning to check out a low spot in the yard.
- I had no anxiety, just school boy nervous when she first got there. Kinda like first date nervous. I was confident and not needy at all.
- She looked awesome. And so did I.

Overall, I'd say the night went very well. Now to leave it behind and move forward. Not putting too much into any of it. Might be the pull-away tomorrow. We'll see.

I went in with no expectations so everything that happened was a bonus.

Ken