Turns out my language of love is mainly physical tough too. Strange test tough. Cute. Don't know that it means much. I'll see how it works on my H tomorrow.
How is it going? I found out tonight that my W love yellow tail wine. Get this we live in Sonoma County California. It has some of the best wines and she likes Australian wine?
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Husband, Chantix is by prescription only at this time. You take it for at least three months. The main side-effects are nausea, and nightmares (if you get them).
My W tried it, and it killed her stomach, but give it a try.
It was approved by the FDA last summer.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
Good to see you had an excellent night on Friday night. It will get easier for you, and you are doing a fine job getting to know the locals and socializing. Keep it up buddy, your PMA seems to be improving.
Don't be surprised if your wife does give you space. She knows that she has instigated your sitch and will feel obligated not to speak up about your movements regardless of her feelings.
It is funny that your W likes Aussie wines. I think our wines are on par with anything the French can make.
I just got back from another date. My PMA has been lifted enormously. The female friend that I had dinner with was a bit "ga ga", and mentioned that she could not concentrate on our conversation because of my "amazing green eyes". No bullshit. And she was a good sort too (from the UK, lived in Australia for 12 years).
It is nice to be able to go out and do the things I used to do with W. I am slowly getting the confidence back and becoming the man my W was attracted to all those years ago. I will continue to DB, but will also make a concerted effort to enjoy myself during this time, as I have found it easier to detach and not worry about my sitch when I am having a good time.
I will also be cautious in regards to taking my friendships any further, as my priorities lay with my M and my family.
AndyV M38 W36 D7 M 13 years Together 17 years W wants D mid Dec 06 (ring off) W wants separation early Jan 07 (she backdated to Oct 06) EA revealed end March 07 (Nov 06 W first meeting with OM) Hallmark moment "I care for you but am no longer in love with you."
Ok I am being pulled in two different directions today.
1. How do I know when the time is right to start building an R again? When is the right Time to start talking R again? I am afraid to say anything because I don’t want to lose everything I have obtained so far but I Do not want to live with this fear for the rest of my life. Living like room mates was what I accepted for the last year because we were married. I gave my vows and I was keeping them but then the W has to go have Sex with her XBF of 17 years ago. WTF.
2. The other problem I am having is WHY can I not “talk” to this A@@ H@le. Yes I know my W was the one that let it happen but the Fu@cken married BF went along with it. He could have comforted her and not had sex. So here he is married with no grief, no worries and screwing an x girlfriend out of state.
When I first found out my W said I better not contact him or his family or it’s over. What do you mean “It’s over? US? I feel like I am less that a man for not sticking up for what is mine. He took something that true was offered but was not his to take. I don’t want to kick his A@@ I just want to talk to him. How can I get respect when I let this guy get away with it? How can I get respect when I LET my W do something like this and don’t say anything about it? I feel soooo sorry for all of you who’s S have filed papers but in another way It would be nice to be able to put this to rest. Sorry having a bad day. I am keeping a PMA today it’s my son’s B-day party. After we are going to the demolition derby to watch cars be crushed.
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
