I too get frustrated a bit that I have to be 'perfect' in the PMA regardless of what is happening. We are not allowed to express our real feelings...
The trick here is to make the PMA your true feelings.
thats it and thats all.
of course, I know thats the hard part.
thats what i'm fighting with too. that why you/I detach, GAL, etc etc.
You're doing great, you're in the friendship phase. look back a few weeks and what were you thinking then? let my tell you what i'm thinking: If i get in the friendship phase, i'll be the happiest DBing DAM you've ever seen.
of course, I know thats the hard part.
I'm a DAM, i'm not stupid.
Just keep up the good work, when the doubts creep in, hit them with the 2x4 so you dont have to hit to yourself.
Most of the time they are my true feelings. I am happier and usually do have a PMA. I like my new job and doing stuff for myself. Sometimes it is just frustrating to fight your past all the time. I cannot change who I was or how I treated her but it always seems to circle back to it. She does not say it like this morning but I can feel it now and then all the same. That backing away type thing when I get to close.
I just need to be better at seeing it coming from a distance and head it off before it gets to close.
Thanks all for your input.
Have a great weekend, I will be putting in long hours.
