Well guys I may have helped someone that was trying to help me.
I was having lunch with a good friend today and we were talking about my WAW and why she left me. I as was explaining what had happened and some of reasons my W gave me she was dropping the bombshell on me.
This lady's expression changed and with a tear in her eye, said that is the way she has felt for years (WAW) about her 20 plus year M. I told her that if knew a year ago what I know now, things may have been much deferent with my M/R today. I didn't so now I have a WAW and I have been complete destroyed. After I read DR and DB it has given me some insight into what has happened to me over the last 8 weeks. The books have taught me that one person could change an R, if they work hard and follow the guideline in DB/DR. I wish that I had them a year ago, but I didn't and now. I am on the forum talking about my problems to strangers about my problems in my M.
I told this Lady that I would not do this to anyone, unless it was the very very last chance. I gave her a DB/DR commercial and gave her the website address. I told her that if she would go to that site and read the first chapter of DR "Divorce Trap" she would be reading about her and her problems. I told her to read the books before she gives up on her M, because if you don't and you walk away, your H will not be the only one hurting. Asked her to do herself a favor and just read the articles DB website, before she does anything. I wish I could have my WAW read it but it is not time yet. I my never get a chance to have her read it.
An hour later the Lady called me and said that she did go to the DB website and read the articles and the first chapter on DB/DR. She thanked me for suggesting the website and the books to her. She was seriously work on her problems in her M/R. She said that she was going to order them today.
I hope it works for her and their M.
I just hope that I can have be able to write an success litter to this forum one day.
Hi Very, good job. It's always a warm fuzzy feeling to help another.
You may point your friend to my original postings. It sounds like she may be in a similar sitch to mine.
Take care.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
