the last real conversation I had with her about our R was 2 or 3 weeks ago. I told her (mistakenly and backsliding) that she wasn't thinking straight, and if it was so easy for OM to waltz into our house and help wreck things, he could (and would) do it to her eventually. I told her I didn't want to see that happen. I told her there was a reason the R with OM didn't work the first time, and it wouldn't again. I realized when she told me I needed to talk to him to see how he really was, that she was brainwashed and I was just pushing her away. ever since that conversation, I haven't brought up jack about our R. when she asks how work was, I say great, when she asks how I've been, I say really good, stayin busy. I have avoided talking about R at all costs. up until last night's discussion involving "other party" there has been no talk of OM from either of us. meanwhile everyone keeps telling me to either give up or it's just a phase. to the people that tell me to give up I say, "you're not supposed to be telling people to give up when they're following their heart" they act shocked like they thought they were doing the right thing and they say "yeah you're right, sorry"
Buster,
If you had this convo to do over again, what do you think might have been a better way to handle it?
