I agree that this is a case of "have my cake and eat it too". What I really think is behind this is her mother. She will not stand up to that woman on any issue and has been getting nothing but negative remarks about me for weeks now.
When I met with W today to give her the starting materials for coaching she was receptive ans seemed hopful. When I left she let me hug her, layed her head in my chest and pressed it there for about a min. First time in years that she has done that.
Talk about a rollercoaster!!!!