So, how long do i accept his, "i will" and other excuses before I start just doing my own thing. I guess i already kinda am... we haven't had dinner together in a week. The girls and i go into their room and read books and color and stuff, but we don't see him. I go to bed when i'm tired and i don't wait for him... Should i be giving him more time to try or do i just keep going and see if he even notices.
It sounds like you are doing great, in managing your own frustration level, and "doing what needs to be done".
The only thing you have to watch out for.. and be VERY careful about... is to not drift completely into the "separate lives" trap. Show him that you would still LIKE him to join you for dinner, sometimes. etc. If I forget to remind you... you'll have to remember after a month of this... if he hasnt noticed, and isnt making more of an effort to join you... you'll have to try something else, to get him to "engage" with you more.
Put a notice to yourself in some computer calendar or something, maybe?
Plus, even from right now, maybe you should make sure that both of you, have fair and equal "chores" to do, for the family?
That might help him not just totally disconnect and hide in his room all day.
Last edited by Dom R; 07/25/0809:08 PM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
