M from TN, thanks for that, I'm gonna check out those threads, too.
Julia, detaching is so hard, I know, I'm still working on it, too. I think it's a gradual process.
Originally Posted By: M from Tennessee
Until you really "let it go" they won't "see" the real you. When you move on, truly move on then lots of times they come running back.
Julia, the times that I've felt most detached are times when I know that I will be OK, even if I lose my H. Truly OK, that I will find love again, that I didn't just waste the last 5 1/2 years of my life, because how can you regret love and intimately getting to know another human being? That's a gift, no matter how it turns out.
Yes, I want to be with my H, and yes, I think he's making a mistake, but it's his mistake, not mine. I'm doing what I can to save our M, and if I have to, I will be able to walk away knowing the rest of my life that I was a successful human being for being willing and able to unconditionally love someone without needing them to love me back, something I never felt capable of before.
It is in the shelter of each other that people live.--Irish proverb
