"1. what's the difference between an excuse and a reason that something happens or is done. 2. How do i expect him to grow up from him without nagging and acting like his mother? 3. How do i expect anything of him and then not be dissappointed when it doesn't happen?"
I really think you are quite capable of answering your questions. I'm no expert on this so take what I way with a pinch of salt. I could be wrong but I thought you may want to read this article. I saw myself in it http://www.coping.org/relations/martyr.htm
And remember we all love you.
I think i'm going to regret having written that...
I actually can't answer those questions and that is why i asked... I'm trying to ask the people that said i am making excuses because i obviously can't tell the difference.
i don't expect you to be an expert and i'm a little sorry i let your post take all my venting. I don't expect you to know how i feel or exactly what is going on because you don't really know me, so i try not to take stuff too personally. (again with the trying)doesn't always go so well.
The article was pretty much me in a nutshell, except that i have made changes in an effort to make things better and they've gotten better in some areas and worse in others. My only problem with it is that what i read, with where i'm at right now, told me to get out of a bad situation. Unless i leave him, i'm going to be a martyr until it gets better, right.
please don't take anything i said too personally either. We obviously all care about each other or we wouldn't be here trying to help.
thank you!!! ann
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