Jak, does that mean you talked to OW? ick. I'm strong but how I'd keep from tearing her face off is beyond me...maybe I misunderstood.


Greatest regret: When she first said she was going, DD would be ok, kids are resilient etc, etc....I wish I had been strong enough to say "ok, by Tuesday please" or some such black and white answer that would have forced her into reality. It might have brought about a quicker resolution.

I wish I had been and even now were more direct in my communication and had been more able to practice the communication techniques that I have seen to work best with her. Her anger scares me and I avoid it but it's just anger and I've survived so far. Let her get mad.

I regret almost always playing 'fair'. the few times I went dark or mysterious did have an impact but were HARD on me. I felt guilty. Ironic given what she was doing.

I have a shovel and I'm not afraid to use it.
Stubby