wow a lockout.

[Gman3388]

Train kept a-rolling........
It seems the lets see what he does game might be starting....
As far as the wedding thing goes, first it was well I might not be going now its yes I'm going but I'm going to spend the night at her female friends house because she isn't staying the night...
Man I really hope she doesn't get loaded at the reception.
My answers were happy and thoughtful.
Sorry babe but your not going to screw me up here...Ive been down this road, remember???

I went back tonight and read my old stitch. So many similarities.
I decided to show here the POP again..(place of peace)
I'm ready to play the game once more....


On a tough note the kids asked why I was sleeping on the couch...
(because I'm a gentleman and Mommy nuck'n futs right now kids!!!)
I told them that our new kittens are keeping me up at night...
That wasn't easy....

[Gman3388]

Journaling more...
HUH?
I get a phone call on the way home from work asking me to pick up salt... Ok no biggie.
I get home and she has made a great dinner. She said I figured why go out to eat tonight (Her and her sister are going dress shopping tonight) and spend 50 bucks each when I can just make dinner at home.
Ya I know why the big deal....because that would be the normal part of her.
When the kids were out of the kitchen she told me that she wanted to know if I would mind if she got rid of our pet ferrets. She said she was trying to think "long term" and about mouths to feed. I told her that they were more hers than mine and the choice is hers. Ok Hun what about the 2 dogs 2 cats 2 fish tanks?
Nice bit of dancing on my part I think.
She sat close to me during dinner and we even had a playful moment or two.

Something else I noticed she still refers to things as Ours..our house, our kids, our pets etc.
Odd very Odd....

[Jack_Three_Beans]

Well those things are yours, together.

It gets weird when they refer to 'their' things are 'yours' jointly. And cool, but weird.

[Gman3388]

Yes it does Jack! She almost makes a point to say OURS.
A little more journaling....
She came home and promptly shut her phone off after it went off as she was walking in the door. She turned it back on a little later to use the alarm feature on it. But she put it in our room.
She showed me the dress she bought and modeled it for me.
She looked good in it!
Later we sat on the couch and watched TV.She seemed friendly and attentive but she was thinking about something....
She always bites on the inside of her mouth when somethings on her mind.
We had a bit of a storm right after we put the kids to bed.
They wound up coming out to the living room and sitting for awhile. Eventually the storm blew over but I wondered for a time, if the kids stayed in the LR where was I going to sleep?
It was shortly aft5er that she went to bed door closed cell phone in room.....

[Gman3388]

And still more....
Last night her grandmother and uncle were visiting. I tried my best to keep my ring finger hidden so no one would notice.
I caught her a few times looking my way.
No biggie I know...not reading into it.
Later after they left she asked what I wanted for dinner.
We wound up go to get Chinese food which is significant because she doesn't like going there. Hell she even paid for the dinner!!
Her cell phone is still attached to our bed....although she's picky when it rings at night.She doesn't answer them all.
Comments? anyone?

[Gman3388]

Got a phone call from her earlier. I made up my mind I was going to call unless she did. She called to tell me of a disturbing story in the newspaper about a dog/baby attack and the pics the local newspaper ran of the dog. Sick bastards!
She wasn't the happiest person on earth.....
Oh well at least she calls me heh.

[Gman3388]

Journaling...
She called from work saying that she was going to another bar tonight with her BF (bad friend) and that it would probably be late when she got home.They might even go to breakfast.
I said Ok sure as happily neutral as I could. Ive heard this stuff before.
Its strange. I'm hurting sure but I seem to be on DB autopilot.
The answers I give her don't require a whole lot of effort to give.
PMA, Distance, go a little dark, don't feed the alien.

[Punktmann]

I said Ok sure as happily neutral as I could. Ive heard this stuff before.
Its strange. I'm hurting sure but I seem to be on DB autopilot.
The answers I give her don't require a whole lot of effort to give.
PMA, Distance, go a little dark, don't feed the alien.

Dude, you have it nailed down. That auto pilot feeling is you responding that way you know you should.

Good job my man.

It really doesn't matter if she goes out with the gf or the bf right now, what she is "looking" for is how you react to her going out at all.

The fact that you don't make a difference in your reaction gives her nothing to "use" later.

You are doing a great job of not playing into her stunts.


That's what it really is, no matter how we cut it, a stunt, aimed at eliciting a reaction.


Don't, react that is, it doesn't pay off. Trust me, it didn't here.

My reactions to her pre-planned "stunts" were set up to fail (what a jerk...) no matter what they were.

Don't play into that hand.

Best,

Punkt.

[Gman3388]

I said Ok sure as happily neutral as I could. Ive heard this stuff before.
Its strange. I'm hurting sure but I seem to be on DB autopilot.
The answers I give her don't require a whole lot of effort to give.
PMA, Distance, go a little dark, don't feed the alien.

Dude, you have it nailed down. That auto pilot feeling is you responding that way you know you should.

Good job my man.

It really doesn't matter if she goes out with the gf or the bf right now, what she is "looking" for is how you react to her going out at all.

The fact that you don't make a difference in your reaction gives her nothing to "use" later.

You are doing a great job of not playing into her stunts.


That's what it really is, no matter how we cut it, a stunt, aimed at eliciting a reaction.


Don't, react that is, it doesn't pay off. Trust me, it didn't here.

My reactions to her pre-planned "stunts" were set up to fail (what a jerk...) no matter what they were.

Don't play into that hand.

Best,

Punkt.

Thanks Bro!! Im trying!
This morning before she went to work we sat down in the kitchen and made small talk. Then I got to be a guinea pig....
The kids brought out some hair gel and proceeded to try and sculpt Daddy's hair. She even got into the act and was combing through my hair and goofing around. Everyone had a good time.
She was right there in front of me, but I resisted the urge to reach out and hold her or touch her.
Its much later now and she's off to a wedding with her friend.
She called not to long ago to say hi and good night to the kids...
I kept it light as usual and wished her a good time.

[Gman3388]

She came home this morning pretty much still buzzed.
She promptly fell asleep and I let her go until about 3:30 pm.
I woke her up and we laid on the bed just talking...about the party, the kittens, the kids but not us. I'm not going to bring anything up at all. Not giving her the ammo.
She wants it over then she must bring it up.
It was nice to lay there and just talk to her.

Ive found out she has been telling people she gave me divorce papers...they weren't papers..more like info on a uncontested divorce which I told her if she wants it then she must take ALL the steps. (pay for it etc.)
Its a wonder how her mind works....