Last night I had to do some work for my IL so the W started to cut the grass. when I got home a neighbor stop over and I needed to give him a check. I went in the house to get a check out of my W purse. She had a piece of clothing in it but I did not look at it because I was in a hurry. My W saw him pull up but did not know I had gotten home so she stopped mowing and come out front. When she saw i was there she left. When I went to put the check book back the piece of clothing was gone. I do not know what it was.
About 10 minuts later she stopped cutting and I ran into her in the garage because she had said at dinner that she was going over to a girlfriends house and could I finish cutting the grass. She was acting a little weird and asked when I got home and what I was doing. I said I had just gotten home when the neighbor arrived and I got a check out of her purse.
I had a rough night sleeping last night. Tossed and turned and all night did not get much sleep. I don't know why but I thought about it all night.
This moring she asked if I was ok. I said I had alot on my mind and that i was sorry to wake her up. She just called and asked again if I was ok and that I was talking or mumbling but she could not understand it and was I mad at her. I told her it was just work and that was it but then asked her if everytime I have a rough night does she think I am mad at her. She said that is the way it has been in the past. I tryed to reassure her that was not it and that I was sorry she felt that way. She said not to worry about it.
I hate back sliding and this BS. Not sure why it bothered me so much or why I really care what it was. It just seemed strange that she went in the house a got whatever it was before I could see it.
OK, I'll play devil's advocate here..Frist thign I'll say is don't assume. You did not see what it was you only assume it was something you were not supposed to see because she moved it.
You outed her EA with an old high school chum/olf friend correct? A couple of weeks ago you outed them right?? If I have you confused with another sitch forgive me, I am following many and they all seem to get cluttered in my head at times..
Ok, lets say she has gotten a gift from someone or bought herself something nice, or maybe it was a gift for you?? She did not want you to see it because it was a gift for you, or because someone else gave her a gift, not romantic, maybe not from her old friend but from someone else, Maybe she's afraid that if you saw it you will assume. Maybe her fears are founded because you do seem to be assuming. maybe it was clothing that neede to go to the dry cleaners or was dirty and she put them away..maybe it was clothing she ripped or tore and needed to be thrown out..it could be anything.
You've made good progress. Things seem to be better. Don't let assumptions side track you. I say forget it. I also say stay out of her purse. It may seem like a lack of trust for her if you go in it, even if you always have..
Forget about it..unless you know what was then you have nothing to worry about. JMO.
lack of sleep has your mind racing over this
Last edited by M from Tennessee; 07/25/0803:34 PM.
