It's all done, now.

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Hey Minnesota man,
Howdy neighbor. Greetings from “up nort”, you do speak Minnesotan right? (yaaaaaa dare den sure ya bet cha) I haven’t followed your thread but oof-da it sounds like you went through a rough one. I think you’re doing quite well considering it’s only been 8 months. The things your feeing seem quite normal to me, and to be betrayed by a friend has to be double the hurt. My EX first got involved with a guy who lived 1000 miles away and he wasn’t a friend, I was thankful for the distance because there were nights that I had some pretty ill feelings toward him and if he would have lived close by… Well let’s just say I’m glad he lived 1000 miles away.
Having your EX in close proximity is going to be a little tough, mine moved in to the house right across the road from me after the D. It was really hard not to watch her driveway and see everyone who was coming and going when it was right out my front window. I finally just decided to sell that house and I moved 15 miles away. That was a good move on my part.

The best advice I can give you is to keep trying to detach and try to keep your focus inward. I know it’s hard to let go of all those old hopes and dreams. It gets easier once you gain acceptance and start actively working towards a new future. I know it’s easier said than done, it took me a long time and I had plenty of backslides and bad nights. Keep yourself busy, get out and do stuff, anything to keep your mind occupied. Eventually you will find that you think about it less and less and you will find that you are actually having fun and not just acting as if…

Hang in there big guy, remember if you can handle 40 below in the winter you can deal with most anything.