The woman I loved and married is gone. THat's one thing I remind myself of whenever I miss her. There's someone out there who looks like her and has her same name, but the good person she was is gone - dead. All that's left is a shallow, self-centered, "I'm right" bitch. Qualities she inherited from my former friend.
MinnesotaMan,
This is very true...... When I thought about my exW...... I had a tendency to remember who she was........
The shy young Christian woman who was embarrassed by her minimum wage job... I admired her work ethic.... To me, I was proud of who she was as a person... I could care less how much money she made... She told me over and over again how her BIL cheated on her sister and how wrong that was.... Her belief that marriage is sacred..... How she viewed people for who they were not how much money they have or make....
That woman is dead and gone........ Replaced by someone lacking morals, compassion and basic Christian values... Someone I would never want to associate with.... The really sad part is woman she was before would have strongly disliked the woman she became...
I chose not to focus on what was or could have been with my exW.... She chose her path.... She chose who she became...... I am so very blessed to have my new wife in my life.........
I am at the point where I still look back and feel the pain... I guess this tells me how deeply I value M and committment.....
But, I have no desire to be with my exW...... I would not trade my new W for ANY woman....
As for your exW and her "new love"....... A wise person here said..... "They deserve each other. They will spend the rest of lives wondering who will cheat first. A great way to live!" I believe that says it all...
Take Care,
NMD
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"Chains do not hold a marriage together. It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads which sew people together through the years. That is what makes a marriage last --more than passion or even sex!" - Simone Signoret
