I did stand my ground with her on many issues which is why we always butted heads. Didn't I say it was her way or the high way.
The shoe thing when we were dating. What the hell did you think I did. Yes I was trying to please the woman. I tried to please the woman all the time. It was never good enough. Nothing is ever good enough.
Last night I did stand my ground. I said I'm not taking him to the ice cream shop. You take him. She shouldn't be showing up at nine unannounced expecting me to do something for her.
So what she got pissed and practically peeled out of the driveway.
You see she came down from the mothership. Was nice to me. Talked to me for 20 minutes the other day. Pretty much made my day. Then it was one favor after another.
As soon as I say NO to her about something. Then she gets all pissed. They she will say I was being nice what happened.
Now would have it been easier to just take him to the ice cream shop.
You see that wasn't what it was about at all. She is sick. She wasn't dressed like a sex kitten and she couldn't go over and see the girls at her work. They would have said ooooooh girl you look terrible, but your still beautiful. I hope I look half as good as you when I'm 30. Her little fan club. Self esteem builders. It wasn't good enough for me to tell her those things.
No, I didn't enable the situation. The kids don't need ice cream at nine. It was the way she approached the problem. Showed up unannounced. Then she didn't even bother to wind down her window. She let our son whine about getting ice cream.
I bet you any money the girl has 4 tubs of ice cream in the fridge at home. Hell I have four tubs of ice cream in my fridge from her shop. I also have sundaes in there they never finished. Then there are other ice cream goodies not even from her shop.
No it wasn't about the ice cream. It was about her being exhausted with the kids. She had them all day. They most likely drove her nuts and to the point of exhuastion and she was sick. Then she is going to fix the situation by dumping sugar in them late. No, I did and would stand firm on those issues. She would just do what she wanted anyway. Well she chose to be a single parent right now. She chose to leave. She chose to swallow the big girl pill.
Yes, the focus is on her. Why because she created these problems.
The square carpet is a disciplinary tool that I have found that works and is effective. It is a form of time out. It works. If they start getting out of line all I have to do is suggest standing on the square. I don't hit my kids. I never really raised my voice at them. I would raise my voice at the end of the night when she would ask me to discipline them. Then as soon as I did she would act like their best friend. Yes it was frustrating. I called her the big eraser. What ever I said to the kids didn't matter. Then she wondered why they walk all over her.
Do you know how frustrating it is to try to study at night and the kids are still up screwing around.
I don't know how I was getting straight A's. I would wear shooting ear muffs to try to study. I kept asking her please keep the kids quiet I'm trying to study.
Yes maybe I do see how the woman felt like I was never there. Online classes are brutal, and when you are reading 4 chapters a week and doing assignments there is no time. Going to work, and still doing home improvements. Then it really helped when some monster kids of the neighbored busted out our windows in the middle of the night.
My last class I got an A minus. Because I didn't put the effort into the team project. I'm tired of lazy people getting away with doing nothing and expecting results. Who else do I need to enable today?
Astimegoeson, Yeah Cranky St. Jerome. No a Deacon.
Wifey, thanks for you input, but I don't think you read enough about my stituation to warrant that it is anything like yours. I do apperciate you taking the time and responding. There maybe some similarities. I'm really glad you have expressed that you also have your own issues. I just wish my wife would work on 1 percent of hers. All I hear from her is how she was such a good wife that didn't do anything wrong. I know what I did wrong. I know how I could have handled things differently.
