Alien invasion 3.0

[hoosiermama]

Yes, absolutely--there would need to be a lot of healing, a lot of forgiving, a lot of therapy if we got back together. We did Retrouvaille about 8 years ago, but we were obviously in a different place then.

Given a lot of thought the the marriage pre-affair. Trying to decide if it is worth all this suffering. The jury's kinda still out on that, as I know I'm seeing it through the glasses of grief. No abuse, no substance addiction, a lot of narcissism and selfishness on H's part and resentment on mine, definitely a SSM. For the most part, H is a good dad. We had 2 mid-term stillbirths, which were excruciating; with the first we pulled together, with the second I had difficulty coping especially with the fact that H left me alone the entire time I was in labor. Not sure I ever got over that.

I doubt he's the jealous type; I've never given him any reason to demonstrate that. Right now, I exist only as an obstacle to what he wants, so I can't imagine he'd be even a little jealous.