It's the same with us....my H's biggest complaint was that I always rejected sex. I was waiting for him to give me non-sexual affection so that I could feel closer to him and worry less about my dissatisfaction with my weight gain and he was waiting for me to express and interest in sex so he could feel closer to me. Viscious cirlce!
At any rate, I agree that for me...initiating sex was the 180 degree change I had to make to show him I mean business when I say I am going to change so I think, for now, I will continue with it.
You mentioned love language...have you read that book? I just finished how to get what you want from the man you love (think that's the title). Michelle wrote it...very good book....has a lot of the same things DB book has, but maybe some more detail. Anyway, it's on to the Sex Starved Marriage. I think after I'm done with all this self help, I may be qualified as a therapist myself. Not for myself of course...I can give out advice...just can't take it myself
